Growing up, there are a lot of things the world will forgive you for. Even in your 20s, there are a lot of mistakes that will be chalked down as ‘youthful exuberances’. But at 30, the world sees you as a full-blown adult and a simple ‘I am sorry’ will not make up for a lot of things.
I am yet to approach the big 30 but I am beginning to learn about some of the habits that I need to cut as it is becoming increasingly difficult to apologise for them. Call it my strategy to prepare for the future or whatever, but I will be sharing some habits that need to be broken before you clock 30.
- Waiting for a ‘sign’ before you begin living – Honey, at this point, you should already know that life is not waiting for you. Figure out what you want to do with your life and begin today to do what you need to do to realize your dream of the future.
- Not giving back – Make time to volunteer for charity. Look around you to see what you can do selflessly for those around you. Start sowing seeds that will add to your ‘goodwill bank’. This is one of the best investments you can make for your future.
- Fighting with your loved ones – Especially your siblings. No relationship is perfect. You will probably have disagreements with your siblings, but you need to learn to forgive easily.
- Saying ‘YES’ to things you don’t want or need – And vice versa. Always remember that it is your life and nobody’s. Your happiness should come first. If there is something that people expect from you that you can’t live up to, politely let them know that you can’t honour that expectation rather than being unhappy while doing it.
- Running late – No matter how hard this is to break, a simple conscious decision to better manage your time will go a long way to help you avoid running late for any engagement, formal or informal.
- Not having a financial investment portfolio – This should have been number 1 but I did not want to hit you with the ‘extremely serious’ stuff first. So, if you are approaching 30 and you haven’t started investing or making plans to invest in your finances, honey, take a seat, pick up your phone and start making the necessary phone calls.
- Being afraid to ask for what you want – Whether in your career or relationship, what you want matters as much as the next person. Demand for what you want, and if you truly deserve what you want, don’t be scared to ask for it or make tough decisions to get it.
- Not returning calls and messages – In this age of technology and applications that can work as assistants, you have ‘almost’ no excuse not to return your calls or messages. Just a short message apologizing for missing that call and asking for a better time to schedule the conversation with that person will suffice.
- Not investing in your health – This is a big ‘NO’! Regular visists to the Doctor, exercise, and conscious healthy meal decision can go a long way in making the rest of your life better.
- Attend functions that you have agreed to attend – Everyone in the world is busy too. If you know you won’t be able to hang with the girls, let them know ahead of time rather than calling in 20 minutes after you have agreed to meet them to say that you cannot make the date.