“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.”
Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. If someone seems to have incredible self-confidence, it’s not because it happen overnight or they were born with it but because he or she has worked on building it for years. Self-confidence is something that you learn to build up because the challenging world of business, and life in general, can deflate it. Trust me, I’ve been there.
One thing I’ve learnt the most in life is that to excel, you have to have unshakeable self confidence and tough skin. Here are 6 ways to help you build your self confidence:
1. Question your inner critic.
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
-Louise L. Hay
Some of the harshest comments that we get come from ourselves, via the. If you struggle with low self-confidence, there is a possibility that your inner critic has become overactive and inaccurate. Then now it’s timevto tame that beast. It isn’t easy but you have to try. Find opportunities to congratulate, compliment and reward yourself, even for the smallest successes.
2. Care for yourself.
“Self-care is never a selfish act — it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.”
Self-confidence comes about a combination of good physical health, emotional health and social health. It is hard to feel good about yourself if you hate your physique or constantly have low energy. So why not make out time to cultivate great exercise, eating and sleep habits. Also dress yourself really nice. You know when they say ‘You look good, You feel good’.
3. Self Affirmations.
“Affirmations are a powerful tool to deliberately install desired beliefs about yourself.”
We tend to behave in accordance with our own self-image. The trick to making lasting change is to change how you view yourself. Make a positive statement about yourself everyday. For example, I use to hate my legs. So every morning, I’d get up and stand in front of the mirror and ask myself, ‘how would you like your legs?’. Our brains are biologically wired to seek answers to questions, without analyzing whether the question is valid or not that’s why it’s better to say our affirmations as questions.
4. Visualize yourself as you want to be.
“What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.”
When we struggle with low self-confidence, we have a poor perception of ourselves that is more often than none, inaccurate. Practice visualizing a fantastic version of yourself, achieving your goals. You’d notice the difference it makes.
5. Do one thing that scares you every day.
“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.”
-T. Harv Eker
This sounds a little bit crazier but the best way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. By doing something that scares you every day and gaining confidence from every experience, you will see your self-confidence grow more and more. So, write a list of the things that scare the crap out of you and start checking those boxes.
6. Set yourself up for a Win.
“To establish true self-confidence, we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.”
Too many people are discouraged about what they can do because they set themselves goals that are too difficult to achieve. Start off small. Set yourself easy goals. Once you have built a stream of successes that make you feel good about yourself, you can then move on to harder goals. Quick tip: Create a “to-did list” and you’d be surprise all the things you were able to achieve both large and small, to remind yourself of the times that you have done well.