It’s a Friday! There’ll be lots of fun stuff to do!! I mean, this is Lagos, right? Well, for some of us who are not exactly anti-social but who prefer to spend our Fridays alone, I know that we are not always comfortable with solitude, yet there are so many ways to enjoy spending time alone, so many things to learn and discover. Things that you can only learn through solitude. If you’re one of those people who can’t stand not being alone, if you’re not afraid to try new things all by yourself, then I dedicate this post to you.
- FIND A HOBBY
How can I find a hobby, when I’m not really good at anything? There are things that you love to do, things that bring you joy, things you love doing and love learning about. Make a hobby out of that thing you look forward to doing and that has helped you not only grow as a person but that you love spending time alone doing and enjoy.
There is so much that life has to offer, so much we often take for granted. Finding a hobby can not only help you discover new passions or talents, but it can also help you feel less lonely. It’s a great way to befriend yourself, learn to have fun with yourself- you’re never less alone, than when alone. You have you.
USE YOUR ALONE TIME TO GROW
There are so many things to try, things to learn, things to discover. One of the best ways to grow is to go out and try new things, find new passions. Most of us have a list of things we’ve been putting off for years. Learning a new language, picking up a new skill, taking a dance class, doing some volunteer work. Those new experience help you grow as a person.
The great thing about living in today’s world is that we have unlimited resources to do all of those things. We can learn new things, grow and discover new passions or talents we never knew we had, all you really need is a laptop and an internet connection.
BOOST YOUR CREATIVITY
Creativity isn’t something you either have, or you don’t. It’s something we’re all born with. You can be creative in the way you dress, the way you cook, the way you do your makeup, the way you work, the way you raise your children – we’re all creative beings.
One of the best ways to enjoy spending time alone is having a creative outlet, boosting your creativity. Even if you think there isn’t anything creative you can do, I guarantee that there are a handful of things you do in your everyday life where you use your creativity. Things you do differently than others.
GET TO KNOW YOURSELF
If you don’t like spending time alone, chances are you also can’t stand silence, or being still. Sometimes, being alone with your thoughts can be… a little intimidating. I’ve learned that one of the best ways to learn more about yourself, is by doing things that scare you- and that includes doing things alone.
You can be 20, 30, 40, 50 years old and learn new things about yourself, every single day. Spending time alone can help you get a better understanding of your feelings, dreams, fears. It can be incredibly clarifying and inspiring. Don’t let the silence or aloneness intimidate you. I think that journaling is a great place to start. It’s a small activity that doesn’t take up much time, but can help you find answers. It can help you get a better feel of yourself, figure out what inspires you, what brings you joy.
TAKE YOURSELF OUT ON A DATE
Go to the movies, grab dinner, go to your favorite coffee shop, all by yourself. Do some people-watching. Doing these things alone might feel scary or a bit… awkward at first. But think about it. You can do whatever you want; you don’t have to debate and argue about which movie to see, where to go to eat, what to order or when to leave. The only person you have to make sure is having a good time is… well… you. You are the only person you have to worry about. Go where you want to go, see what you want to see, eat what you want to eat.
GET A LITTLE LOST
Try going for a long drive, or a walk and get lost a little. Explore new places, new stores, new towns. One of my favorite places to go and get lost in is a bookstore. You can spend hours browsing, exploring – all while enjoying that beautiful smell of books. Turn off your phone, sit in a comfy chair, read, walk through the book isles. Pick up random books to browse through. It’s great when you don’t have to worry about finding someone who has time to go with you, you don’t have to worry about whether or not you can stay out longer because someone else has somewhere to be. Don’t be afraid to get lost a little – it can be so fun and refreshing.
Loneliness and spending time alone are two different things. I used to be terrified of doing things alone, all by myself. Even things as small as going grocery shopping would be uncomfortable while I was getting over my social anxiety. After I began to embrace my alone time, doing things by myself, everything changed. I don’t want to say that I’ve become a loner, but I can’t say that I don’t get excited when I sometimes get a call about canceled plans.
In life, you have to take some time to slow down, stop, re-evaluate some things, when you are not in a constant hurry. Silence, solitude, can be your best friends during those times. Don’t be afraid to embrace them.