A Dog That Brings a Bone Will Carry A Bone.
For year, my mother would always make that exact quote to me and for the longest time I did not understand it till I grew older. Friendships are beautiful when you truly find a good one but nowadays people mistake genuinely friends for people who just want to know what’s going on in their lives. The phrase “A dog that brings a bone will carry a Bone” simply means if a ‘friend’ can bring the personal business of one of their friends to you, best believe they are telling someone else your business.
Have you ever had that one person in your life who always has to be the the bearer of bad news? They are the first to tell you that your partner is cheating, the first to tell you about a mistake you made, the first to tell you that you aren’t invited to a group party, the first to throw shade on your shine. Well, we have all been there.
I once had a friend who was the first to share information with me that she knew would be hurtful to me or her other friends, but which I had no need to know. She would tell me about how my life wasn’t smooth sailing or how her friends boyfriend is cheating and she can’t tell.
Initially, I thought to myself, ‘maybe she’s just being a friend’. Afterall, we’d shared a lot of great gossip over the years. In truth, there was no reason for her to share these things she constantly brought to me. She has to have known her friends would not be okay with her telling me confidential things or vice versa.
Don’t get me wrong, there are people that just can’t help themselves but most people don’t care for “you”. They mostly just want to know what’s happening to be able to pass on the information. Although, this doesn’t mean we shouldn’t have friends but we just need to be more careful.
It is important that in all of our friendships, we think before we speak. Ask yourself, ‘if it was me, would I like that?’. Yes, there may be times when it is necessary to share unfortunate news with a friend. God has called all of us to speak the truth in LOVE (not hate, spite, or jealousy). However, we should always be conscious of whether the information we are sharing will benefit them in some significant way. We should always be conscious of our motives in sharing that information. If there is some indication that you might be sharing bad news Jusr because you want to ‘gist’ or just to laugh, rethink whether the information being shared will truly benefit your friend.
Some things are better left unsaid.
At the same time, we also need to be very careful who you tell your business to. Not everyone needs to know what you’re feeling or what’s going on in your life.
Be wise people. Be wise.