Two weeks ago I had the privilege to catch up with old schoolmates from secondary school. An old buddy reached out to offer his condolence on the death of my father, I was delighted to hear from him after so many years, we tried to catch up over the phone and social media but we soon found out that we needed to see one- on -one since I was still in town after the funeral. He reached out to a few others in our class and invited them out and that was how the mini reunion happened. We went out for drinks at a cool joint in town, had lots of good laughs, great food plus awesome conversations. It was a good and pleasurable day.
Keeping in touch with old friends is one aspect of our lives that takes the back seat once we hit our mid-twenties and careers, serious relationships, and families arrive on the scene. It’s a little nerve racking to try to get back in touch with a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. We often wonder, what if we don’t have anything to say to each other? But then a few months later, we realize that more time has passed and the communication gap is even wider than it was before.
Logistics often affects friendship. Friends are more likely to fall out of touch if they are not able to hang out at least regularly. Social media and phones calls are nice and all, but what we really value is that in-person interaction. If you reconnect with an old friend you hope to start seeing again, they will be less open to the idea if it’s not logistically feasible for you all to spend much time together.
To get back in touch with someone you just have to put yourself out there, the other person could be open to restarting the friendship, and you’ll pick up right where you left off. Or they might be too busy with their partner, family, job, current friends, or have moved on to another place in their lives. There’s nothing wrong with writing an old friend on social media or giving them a call once in a while to catch up and subsequently invite them out for drinks. If you do it, don’t feel you’re being desperate or intrusive. People are often delighted to hear from an old buddy out of the blue. After all, you did once get along with them well enough to become friends.
This weekend, get in touch with those old buddies, invite them out for drinks, you might be surprised at how much of a good time you guys would have.
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