Writing about happiness is the most adventurous thing I’ve done in a long time, aside from letting some guy kiss me in his car, after our second date months ago.
“Find activities that make you happy and engage in them daily”, my friend is quick to say. I wish it was that easy, then my other friend, who is a therapist won’t enrich herself from depressed people’s money.
I guess I’ve never been willing to accept the very average life. Everything just has to be white and fluffy and quiet for me to appreciate it, just a little. But as it turns out, that’s a good soil for sadness to thrive.
Happiness, I’ve realize, is a cross section of superficial things, like indulging in beauty treatments, buying a rice cooker or juicer, learning a new skill or language, talking a walk on Ikoyi bridge while others are trying to beat the traffic home.
Happiness is learning how to find humor in any/every situation. It’s something you can work on, like a growing muscle.
Here’s what I am doing to be happier :
. l’m reading happy : I’ve always been a reader. But what kind of books have u been reading? Don’t you dare ask! I’ve made resolve to read happy books and books on happiness : I suppose, it will do me a lot of good to learn how to be happy and to hear how other got on happy.
I’m looking happy : “One of the quickest way to feel a surge of happiness is to get dressed in nice clothes, wear some makeup and heels!”, I’ve been told. And I quite agree. I personally know getting healthy, glowing skin follows closely, so I’m getting them all.
I’m smelling happy : Coming back home to a room with scented candles and scented petals gives such a happy feeling. I wish I could carry them around Lagos.
I’m relaxing happy : and that, for me, doesn’t include leaving my bed. Yes, I certainly love hanging out. I also love catfish pepper soup, but I’ll still need to relax, on my bed, after the hard labour of sitting with people to have a conversation while eating catfish pepper soup.
I’m eating happy : that’s obvious, isn’t it? I’m moving from considering the cost first, to considering my carvings first. Whatever will make me happy, I’m eating it. In small portions with lots of water, though.
I’m working happy : thank God I’m not in a Job I hate.
I’m thinking and talking happy : right now it’s a conscious and intentional action, but I’m looking forward to when I will actually see beauty in an adult or child who will not sit quietly in one place.
I’m living happy : if it won’t make me happy, forget it, I’m not doing it.
Image : Nancy Isime