As humans, it is natural for us to worry about every little thing happening in our life. Be it work, school, money, family, food, relationship, etc. We constantly worry about things, causing frequent anxiety, stress, and fear. It’s natural to worry. But, when worrying becomes a bad habit that stops you from truly living your life, something needs to be done about it.

While not all worrying is linked to failure, most worrying is linked to the fear of failure. We worry about money because we’re afraid we might not have enough of it at the end of the month. We worry about our spouses when we feel like our relationships are on the rocks. And we worry about what others would think of us if they know what a failure we really were at something.

It is easy to say we should just stop worrying and live our lives. I don’t know you and I don’t know the types of problems you have. But what I do know is that we get what we focus on in life. I’ve been through the ringer and have had my share of monumental failures, so I know what it feels like to be constantly worried. But I also know what it feels like to take a chance and live life to the fullest.

While it’s okay to worry some of the time, constant worry is an almost direct route to more problems. Worrying releases stress hormones such as adrenalin and cortisol, which negatively impact us mentally and physically by reducing our body’s natural immunities, increasing our level of stress, negatively affecting our diet and digestive system, and much more. However, if you want to stop worrying and start living your life, there are some effective methods for doing that. While nothing is going to entirely take all your problems away, by shifting your focus and creating a deeper understanding for the bigger picture, we can all help to alleviate some of the enormous weight resting on our shoulders.

Nothing is going to happen overnight. Worrying is definitely a habit that can become ingrained in the mind, like any other habit we might have. And, like any other habit, it is possible to quit worrying and start really living your life by following a few simple rules and keeping a few key principles in your mind to break the habit and replace it with a new one.

Here they are…

  • You will get more of whatever you focus on.

Many of us don’t realize that our subconscious minds are controlling our lives. Like the lens of a camera, you get whatever you focus on. If you focus on problems, you’ll see more problems. If you focus on something positive, eventually you’ll start seeing positive things. While it’s hard to shift your focus overnight, it’s something that you can do gradually over time. This doesn’t mean you have to ignore your problems. On the contrary, you have to acknowledge your problems, but focus on the solutions. If you live in the problem, it will only get worse and your worrying will only increase. We are a product of our circumstances if we allow ourselves to be. Anyone can change and improve, turning a negative situation into a positive one.


  • Do not let the fear of failure to stop you from taking risks

It’s no secret that we are experts in making mountains out of molehills. When we worry, the fear for potential failure that we build up in the mind, is far greater than the actual failure itself. This does a number on our way of thinking and emotional stability. When we fear failure so deeply that it actually translates into physical sicknesses, then we know we really have a problem. While we will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure in the short term, we need to flip our thinking so that we look more to the long term. We must ask ourselves questions like, “Why am I so worried? What’s the worst that can happen if I just take a risk? What’s the potential outcome 2, 3, 5, or even 10 years from now? When we can associate more pain to not taking the risks rather than taking the risks, we can alleviate some of our worrying, and begin to live our lives. Life is about being passionate and living out your dreams, no matter what you have to go through to get there.


  • Remember that you’ve pulled through before, and you’ll pull through again

A big part of worrying has to do with the what-ifs we tend to contemplate in our minds. ‘What if this happens?’ ‘What if that happens?’ ‘What if I can’t afford to pay my bills?’ ‘What if my kids don’t have food to eat?’ ‘What if I don’t have a place to live?’ Once again, our not-so-good friend, fear, is playing a big role in the amount of worrying that we do on a daily basis. But, what you have to realize is that, you’ve got this. You really do. You’ve pulled through in the past, and you’ll pull through again. And, whatever doesn’t kill you, truly does make you stronger. Worrying will not make the situation better. There’s a reason why we go through trials and tribulations in life. We’re tested for a reason.


  • Immediately disrupt any and all detrimental behavior and negative beliefs that are holding you back

As soon as a negative thought crosses your mind, disrupt that thought. You must interrupt the common patterns that put you into a state of deep worry and stress. But, in order to do that, you have to first identify the negative beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors that lead you into that desolate state. I talk about beliefs because worry is born from a state of negative beliefs. We worry because we believe we’re not good enough, smart enough, or capable enough to see something through. We worry because we don’t think we have what it takes. That leads to negative thinking, and a set of resultant behaviors that help to close the loop of negativity.


  • Your self-worth doesn’t rely on others’ opinions of you — ignore the naysayers

Others’ opinions of us do not directly translate into our own self-worth. When people put us down or talk behind our backs, it doesn’t mean that somehow our lives are meaningless or that we’re less important. All of that is mere bullying. Bullying has been around since the dawn of time and it will always be around. The biggest challenge, however, is to overcome all of that negative talk, transcending it on this journey that we call life. The sooner we can ignore the naysayers, the sooner we can stop worrying so much about what others think of us. Because, at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is that you’re doing the right thing. All else should fall to the wayside. Learn to move past that. Make a conscious decision right now to do it. Decide, right here in this very moment, that your life means more than others’ opinions of you. And tell yourself you’re not going to worry about it anymore. It’s just not that important. It’s not worth your mental health. Just keep doing you and moving forward. All of the rest will eventually fall into place over time.


  • Anything in life that’s worthwhile, will never, ever come easy

When we come to the realization that anything in life that’s worthwhile, will never, ever come easy, we can alleviate a little bit of our worries. Over time, those sleepless nights, times spent stressed and worried, and the constant and never ending fears, will all be worthwhile. Whatever it is that you’re pushing towards, and whatever it is that’s in your way, it will eventually work itself out. Tough times don’t last; tough people do. Once we can shift our perspective from the short term to the long term, and realize that nothing great will ever happen quickly, we can stress and worry just a little bit less. It won’t take it all away, but the constant and continued action towards improving whatever area of our lives we’re focusing on, will certainly help to take some of the mental focus away from problems and negativity.


  • Set goals, plan, and persist, but never, ever, ever give up

In order to move away from worry, not only do we need a major shift in our focus, but we need a strategic plan for the future. We need to set goals, create a plan, take action, persist, and never give up. By setting goals, creating a plan, and taking action, we are at least moving away from whatever it is that’s mentally ailing us. But, when we just wallow in the misery and despair of our situation, nothing gets better. It gets worse. In that way, we tend to worry and stress even more, potentially causing huge physical ramifications for us in the form of vulnerabilities to sicknesses and diseases, and a long-term decline in general health.

The worst part about worrying is, possibly, the desire to give up on something. We want to give up because something might be too difficult or take too long. We might want to give up because we question our ability to achieve something as well. However, as long as we stick to the plan, we can stop worrying over time by seeing our goals through. While it won’t solve all of life’s problems, it will help to make some things just a little bit easier on us.

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