No one wants to date the person no one else wants!
Read the above quote in a dating book once, I’ve actually read a couple of relationship books, some were helpful, some were full of crap and left me in a more twisted and confused state than I was before reading them. Don’t get me wrong, dating books are good but do we really need them to meet new potential dates? Finding Mr. Right in today’s world is solely up to you and chance in my opinion, I’ve also realized that there is no hard and fast rule to anything, things aren’t black and white anymore, those grey areas really does exist.

There are no perfect humans anywhere; some people find love in the craziest and weirdest place, some others in a hopeless place like that Rihanna’s song. I have heard some love stories of how couples met. Unexpected and unimaginable places, yet they found love just right there. So in the complete sense, to find love you have got to be real with yourself, stop being conscious of the fact you are looking for your other half. Your realness will attract the right person to you.
Just do your thing, love yourself first, find something tangible to do about your purpose here on earth, you just don’t know while doing this, love might find you just right there.
Love can be found in the most unexpected places, it sort of finds us wherever we find ourselves. There are a lot of amazing stories about people finding love in their neighborhoods, through friends (that’s how I met my caramel coco by the way), place of worship, work place, night club, in a public bus, in hospitals, even as weird as this might be, you can meet your dream man/woman in the hospital, no matter what you are there for, I know you are sick, but you have got to talk to that special doctor or nurse, if you know what I mean. Other places people have met potential dates are at the ATM, the mall, and the gym and last but not least online dating. A lot of couples met online, Life is full of surprises. It would be quite tragic if you missed out on someone great because he or she didn’t arrive the way you expected.

It turns out; love may be waiting for us in the least expected places. It’s often not a case of going out and finding it – it can come to you. Don’t seek a relationship out of fear with reasons like loneliness, not wanting to be left on the shelf, conforming to society’s expectations, appeasing parents’ concerns, wanting to be loved, wanting to feel “complete”, wanting to have a partner to “show off” to friends, and not wanting to be the only single left among coupled friends. Instead go with love based motivations; it is better to date with reasons rooted in wholeness, betterment and authenticity.

I wish us all the best in our romantic endeavors.

Thanks for reading,

Happy Valentines!

About Onyi Ukorah

I'm a communications strategist that dabble in writing, I have a healthy appetite for life and all things beautiful. I hope you enjoy my articles as much as I do writing them.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.