You know how time moves us on and we tend to forget the past with all its intrigues and drama, well can getting back together with an ex be classified as part of the moving on process?

The recent alleged trending report that Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber got back together during the week had me thinking that maybe break ups aren’t a bad thing after all, heck it could be the last hail Mary that actually rekindles the dwindling flame of love in a relationship. We’ve seen other successful cases of couples that broke up and found their way back to each other after some time apart and most times the second time is usually the charm.

Relationships are complicated and no longer black or white, some people date off and on for several years and still find ways to work it out. If two people are willing to work, forgive and nurture their relationship, then it definitely can work. Both partners need to be completely on the same page and the lines of communication need to be well and truly open.

I believe sometimes couples just need a little space in order to work things out, however, ignoring previous problems in the hope that everything will be wonderful this time around is just asking for trouble. If you are about to re ignite an old flame it’s a good idea to take some time to evaluate what went wrong the first time. For most cases the phrase ‘once beaten twice shy’ comes to mind but there’s always an exception to the rule.

For couples that truly want a second chance at it, opening up old wounds for the sake of a quick win will only damage your chances of making things work. To try again you must be willing and able to move on if you’re to have any hope of having a future together. Leave the past in the past, learn from it but don’t bring it up in the heat of an argument.

Although I am all for getting back together with an ex but if it is just for casual fun then don’t do it, to avoid situations where people could potentially get their feelings hurt, no matter how much you miss physical intimacy, casual sex with an ex is never a good idea.

Never say never but always go back into a past relationship with open eyes and if it doesn’t work out this time too, don’t berate yourself for following your heart. It is time to move on to other possibilities, don’t go back for a third try, that ship has most definitely sailed.

Thanks for reading!

 

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About Onyi Ukorah

I'm a communications strategist that dabble in writing, I have a healthy appetite for life and all things beautiful. I hope you enjoy my articles as much as I do writing them.

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