Self-esteem is something that comes from within, and your level of self-esteem depends on how you value and perceive yourself. People with low self-esteem find it difficult to derive joy or pleasure from normal activities.
Not sure if you have esteem issues? Please read on.
Here are some ways to know:
Feelings of pessimism are a good indication that self-esteem may be lacking. When you don’t feel good about yourself, you have a difficult time feeling good about anything.
When our self-esteem is not intact, we have a tendency to exaggerate our lives to others. We may use over-exaggeration to make things appear tougher than they really are in order to get sympathy, or to oversell ourselves and inflate our own confidence.
Either way, it never works for long and we end up feeling worse than before the exaggeration took place.
- PUTTING OTHERS DOWN
Often, an individual with low self-esteem will try to bring others down to their level. This is often done through putting people down verbally.
If you are constantly talking about other people’s flaws and can find no good in them, check yourself.
- SOCIAL WITHDRAWAL
When someone doesn’t value themselves, they have a hard time believing that anyone else could. Whether a person feels unlovable because of outer or inner issues, they will pull away from others in order to protect themselves from any perceived threat. This has the opposite effect, and often makes a person feel worse than if they were to go out and socialize instead of dwelling on their faults.
- PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS
Finally, low self-esteem can manifest itself in physical symptoms. These can range from fatigue to insomnia and headaches. If you are complaining of a lot of health problems with no apparent cause, look for one or more of the other signs on this list to see if the physical problems might be related to low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem seeps joy and health from a person’s life in every way.
When an individual suffers from low self-esteem, it almost always affects all areas of their life. The best thing is to pay attention to changes you begin to notice about yourself and take some steps to build your happiness and confidence again.
You can do that by following these tips:
- Focus on your positives.
- Take care of yourself.
- Think about what is affecting your self-esteem.
- Avoid negative self-talk.
- Connect with people who love you.
- Learn to be assertive.
- Set a challenge for yourself.