More often than none, many of us have consistently found ourselves in relationships without taking time to focus on self. After being in one relationship, we go into the next hoping to fulfill something that was missing from the previous relationship. Hoping to fill a void that’s left in our heart, so we hop from relationship to relationship looking for that Fulfilment. Often, we jump into these relationships because of the fear of being alone. But, look at it this way, if you can’t be alone, there is no way you are whole enough to be with someone else. Rather than being afraid to be by ourselves, we need to think about how we can better our selves because that alone will improve what we offer individually in the next relationship.
Being single can actually be a blessing and not a curse. Rather than focusing on “OMG everyone’s loved up except me”, You have the opportunity to do things that you didn’t get the chance to do when you were in a relationship. You can take this time to work on yourself and build your confidence and also do things you were afraid of. When you take the time to work on yourself, no one else matters, but you. Everything that you want to pursue or work on, it’s time to make those moves for you.
There’s nothing wrong with being selfish and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Sometimes we have to do what’s best for us. Taking time away from relationships allows us to prepare or better ourselves for the next person to cross our path. I’m not saying that should be the sole reason for soul searching because knowing yourself on its own is a blessing.
If people can’t respect your decision to be alone and to focus only on yourself, they are apart of the problem. Don’t let anyone interfere with what you have going on. Remember, if you don’t put yourself first, no one else will.
Put yourself first. We are rooting for you.