By Betty Irabor

If you’re not married by 30..

If you’re still living with your parents at 40..

If you don’t have N5 million in your account by…

If you’re still living on the Mainland..If you are still in paid employment ..

If you don’t have over 100, 000 followers …

If you’re not a social media influencer …

If you don’t graduate by 25..

If you are not balling by..

If you’re not this and that by…..
Oh, the pressure that social media inflicts on the vulnerable every day!! Many coaches and influencers dish out MASTER CLASSES on HOW TO and WHAT TO DO to be so and so by a certain date. Every thing has an expiry date attached to it; from  career, fashion, weight loss , dating, living, relationship, money, mother hood to happiness. Seriously?

People are made to feel like failures because they seem not to be able to MEET UP with the timelines set by the EXPERTS.
And the pressure piles while  the sense of failure increases until it becomes an obsession. 

Life then becomes a race against the raging tide and then BOOM!! A SNAP!!!

Here’s my two pence advice; 

• THERE ISN’T A CERTAIN ONE WAY TO BE SUCCESSFUL
• THERE ISN’T A CERTAIN TIME TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS AS LONG AS YOU’RE NOT JUST  SITTING AROUND WAITING FOR SUCCESS TO JUST HAPPEN.

 YOUR JOURNEY IN LIFE IS NOT PREDICATED ON THE JOURNEY OF OTHERS BUT YOU CAN BE INSPIRED BY THEM.

DONT BE ENSLAVED BY OTHERS DEFINITION OF SUCCESS AND WHEN TO ACHIEVE IT.

LIFE IS A JOURNEY NOT A DESTINATION…TAKE TIME TO ENJOY THE SIGHT AND SOUND.

 FILTER WHAT YOU HEAR AND SEE ON SOCIAL MEDIA. 

 BE REALISTIC WITH THE GOALS YOU SET.

 REMEMBER THAT ONE SIZE ALWAYS DOESNT FIT ALL..

THERES A TIME AND PLACE FOR EVERYTHING. 

WHATEVER YOU DO BE ACCOUNTABLE TO YOURSELF FIRST.

KEEP LEARNING DONT FAKE IT…MAKE IT HAPPEN.

KEEP EVOLVING 

DONT BE STAGNANT 

CELEBRATE YOUR BITE SIZE MILESTONES 

DO YOU. 

TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE.

Xoxo