We’ve all seen or heard something we shouldn’t. It could be someone cheating on their significant other, someone planning a surprise birthday party or something as harmless as an odd habit that no one knows about. There is a common belief that women say everything they see or hear and that we just can’t help but gossip.
Whether this is true or not, every human beign regardless of gender has and will see something they aren’t supposed to and will be faced with the decision of whether to spill or not. It is often a conflicting decision, but can be carefully considered and a right decision made.
First of all, it is important to recognize why you might want to speak out. Is it something that another person needs to know? If you find out that a co-worker is stealing from your place of work, it might be advisable to say something. On the other hand, if your coworker is pregnant and taking active steps to keep it to herself, you might want to keep it to yourself.
Another factor is what the consequences will be. Sure, you can tell the other party to keep it to themselves, but time has proven that this doesn’t always happen. What if someone else tells and it is traced back to you? If it is something that can be shared without any splash back, you could very well go ahead.
If it is something that was told to you in confidence, and there will be no negative consequences from you keeping it to yourself, you shouldn’t tell. The last thing you need is the reputation of someone who can’t keep anything to themselves.
Also, if you are in the pursuit of a drama-free life, it would help to adopt a see no evil, hear no evil policy. There will be times where you will need to speak up, but for the most part, you might benefit from keeping things to yourself.